The Journey Home.

The journey home is a part of everyone’s journey. Home is that place where we belong. It is not necessarily a physical place ~ actually it is more of a spiritual/emotional place.

Home is the place where our heart and soul belongs ~ the place we find comfort.~ a place where our truth lies.

We leave home for many reasons; sometimes we are not even aware that we left.
One of the challenges about understanding our truth is that it is influenced by outside people and events. At times we will abandoned “our beliefs” and “desires,” because we are trying to please another person; such as a parent or spouse or friends. When we start betraying our inner self ~ we have left home.

The number one cause of leaving home is fear. Fear motivates us ignore things we would normally accept as our core values. It causes wars ~ not just in the Middle East ~ but also in our families, relationships and our souls. Fears separates us from who we are. Fear of rejection will cause us to do unthinkable things. Sometimes, in order to keep from being rejected ~ we will reject the person, place, or thought ~ that we fear is going to reject us. Therefore ~ we fulfill the philosophy of rejection. If we are afraid that our friends or family will abandon us, for what we do or believe ~ we may deny ourselves of the things we need to sustain our spiritual health.


Somewhere in our life, we all leave home ~ we all betray our core values. This isn’t bad ~ it just is. Actually, for most, it becomes an opportunity to grow ~ to become more spiritually sound. When we do manage to return home ~ we find we are more secure ~ we are happier ~ more comfortable.

So how do we find our way home? It is not always easy ~ yet we will always have someone to take the road with us. That someone is God/The Divine/Our Higher Power ~ or whatever we chose to call Him/Her/It.

Step one is to admit that you have strayed from home and want to return. Through admitting the desire ~ The Divine will start opening doors for you.

Step two: Is to take some time to determine what your real core values are. Who are you? What do you believe? Who do you want to socialize with? Where do you want to be?

Step three: Is realizing that your true friends will accept you for who you are. In most cases your family will accept your decisions. If they don’t sometimes you will have to reduce your contact with them. Remember ~ your friends and families do not define you ~ you define yourself.

Step four: Start allowing your actions to reflect your inner self. As your actions start following your desires ~ you will begin to change the outer person ~ you will become more peaceful inside.

Step five: Find new friends (this does not mean that you have to abandon old) who hold similar beliefs to yours. By socialize with people who are on a similar journey ~ it will strength your journey.

Step six: If appropriate and possible (and necessary) may amends to people you have injured in the past. By asking for forgiveness (even if it is not granted) it will help you forgive yourself. If you can not locate a person or if they have already passed to the other side ~ you can have an imaginary conversation with them or even write a letter. We have all offended someone in the past (and will again in the future) ~ so this is a great exercise to do at anytime. Our “sins” may be as simple as being judgmental, short tempered; non-empathic ~ they don’t have to be large infractions. There may be times where we even find that we are willing to renew old broken friendships.

Step seven: Learn the power of love. There are two ways to view any situation ~ through fear (and all its subcomponents and through love (and all its subcomponents). If all our actions are motivated through love ~ our outcomes will start be more peaceful. If you look at an angry person who is screaming at you ~ and in your heart and mind you want to demonstrate to this person love ~ then your actions will be directed towards defusing the situation ~ as opposed to throwing more fire on it. Soon you will discover you will be faced with fewer volatile situations.

Step eight: Identify your authentic self ~ not the person who your mother, father or spouse want you to be ~ but whom you really are. Then remember the wise words of Shakespeare: “To thy own self be true.”

Do these things ~ you will discover a peace within yourself that is a Utopia


Utopia is not a place ~ it is a state of mind. When you allow the light of the Divine to shine in your life ~ your soul will be in Utopia.